dudes at starbucks and trader joe’s

this is a not any one guy.  this is a collective group of men who i am VERY popular with. 

i would say i get asked out at starbucks at least once a week.  hit on 3 or 4 times.  maybe it is my no frills ventidripnoroom that is alluring to men.  maybe it says “low maintenance, economic, and easy.”  ha.  my coffee says i’m “easy.”  THAT is funny.

and at trader joe’s i feel like i am a super model.  which is ridiculous, because if i’m at trader joe’s i’m feeling lazy and buying mini tacos.  that is the only thing i consistently go there for because they are not as good anywhere else.  i highly recommend you check those suckers out.  anyway, i’m usually in sweatpants, a hoody, flip flops, hair is usually in buns or braids if i’m at trader joe’s.  maybe people who shop at trader joe’s find “homeless” sexy, i don’t know.  i think it is the glasses and hair and the mini tacos.  maybe it puts a “fun, not too serious or domesticated” look to me.  i’m not sure, but they LOVE it. 

i’ve never seriously entertained an advance from a dude at starbucks or trader joe’s.  they never seem sincere or something, but maybe i should. 

has anyone ever had luck with a random advance in a coffee shop, book or grocery store?

coffeemate

this morning at starbucks, i ordered my usual ventidripnoroom, and there was a very attractive gentleman behind me who ordered……the EXACT same thing.  the same way.  what are the chances?  julia, the girl at the counter, looked at me, looked at him and her eyes opened wide….like that meant something.

i’ll tell you what it means….we both like coffee.  which is why we are both in a starbucks at 615am.  as convenient as it would be to not have to keep cream for someone else’s coffee in my fridge, i think that is jumping the gun a bit, you? 

i was at a book store a few months ago and there was this hot guy a few rows away and we kept making eyes at eachother.  then i noticed he was in the “self help” section and i walked away.  i probably should have given him a shot because we do both like books, and who else am i gonna find that reads?

it is  not a far trip from: ”what? you want to win the lottery too?  that is SO weird.” 

the fact remains that relationships are hard.  people are complicated and thinking like this is lazy.  if it was that easy…it would be THAT EASY and this blog wouldn’t exist.

one of the mikes

yes, based on that title, you could assume that there are more than one suitor named “mike.” and you’d be right.

we met after a comedy show.  friend of a few friends.  seems like a cool guy.  went to a bar after the show with a bunch of other people and honestly didn’t talk to him that much.  he asked me if i was on a social networking site and i said “yes” and then he asked me for my url.  i told him i didn’t know it.  silly me, i’m used to guys asking for my number.

anyway, by the time i got home i was “friend requested” by him and accepted.  i didn’t write him a note and the next day, he remarked on that.  well, we chat back and forth.  he is funny, charming and nice.

he lives in baltimore somewhere…..northish.  over an hour away.  well, two dear friends of mine live up there too and invited me to their baby shower.  so i ask one of the mikes if he wants to grab a cup of coffee (he doesn’t drink alcohol) and he agrees.  we pick a starbucks and enjoy some java.  we have a good time….a great time.  he isn’t guarded or cynical like a lot of guys i’ve gone out with and it is refreshing to hang out with someone who isn’t going to drink my beer.  we had coffee for 2 hours.  and i felt comfortable being myself around him.  he revealed a bit of himself to me.  and i think he would be a great guy to be involved with.

well, dude puts me as his number 5 friend out of 8 on his site.  really?  that seems a little weird.  he has 1500 “friends” on there.

so, problem?  he is friends with bob the builder.  they’ve known each other for years.  i can’t really do that.  i don’t feel good about dating more than one cheerleader on a squad.  so, honestly, things will probably go nowheresville with him.  which is unfortunate, because he is a stand up guy.

i saw him again this past weekend, had a beer with him after visiting my friends and their new baby.  it was nice, he had a coke and few cigarettes and i drank a beer.  i told him i was tired and gonna go home and he said i could stay there, if i want.  i politely declined.

one of the mikes is a guy who calls me at 1230am to chat about his week.  really…just to chat.  i’m up everyday at 530am so that is kinda shitty for me.  but, overall, honestly, it comes down to his relationship with bob the builder.  he is pretty awesome, but i don’t see anything materializing from our encounters.